We all know relationships are hard. Sometimes we wonder how the chasm between ourselves and our partners became so deep and wide, and whether there is any hope for bridging the distance. I’ve met so many dedicated partners who are shocked to find that within the same intimate relationships that were once fulfilling, sustaining, and soulful, they are instead feeling:
● Lost or Confused
● Alone
● Stuck or Trapped
● Deeply Disheartened or Resigned Nothing Will Change
● Hopeless or Helpless About the Future of the Relationship
I work with couples who have experienced any number of ruptures in their relationship, including:
● Broken Trust
● Infidelity
● Fighting
● Financial Struggles
● Addictions
● Disconnect in Sexual Intimacy and Desire
Disconnected partners often feel angst at the prospect of facing these troubling issues, not just as a couple but also as individuals. The humorous definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again but NOT experiencing the desired result. It makes you feel crazy because you’ve repeatedly tried to fix it to no avail. Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT) is here to help.
EFT provides the shift you’ve been missing to disrupt that experience of insanity. Because it gets to the heart of the matter.
Don’t throw in the towel just yet! You and your partner can break free of the negative cycle keeping you stuck from relating in the manner you desire. I am certified in evidence-based Emotionally Focused Therapy proven to be highly effective at resolving the underlying feelings and needs that are really driving the challenging interactions. Working together, we can help you move from pulling away from one another in distress, to leaning into a loving and fulfilling intimacy you didn’t know was possible.
There is no “blame” in EFT.
Personally, I knew something was missing in my work with couples. I felt their distress of not being able to heal the wounded areas of their relationship. I, too, felt the discomfort of their emotional tension and didn’t know how to provide relief until I discovered EFT. It provided me with a lens which helped to make sense of their emotions so they could safely connect again. I felt empowered, as did the couples!
If this connects with you, call me today and let’s get started.